“In Pursuit of The One: A Journey through Love’s Labyrinth”— Let’s discuss Attachment Styles.

The biggest lesson to learn about your Love-Life to end up properly partnered in life. This will change your relationships completely.

Fer Rivero

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Love. It’s a four-letter word that carries a universe of emotions. For some, it’s a joyous journey adorned with companionship and shared dreams. For others, it’s a complex labyrinth, a quest to find “the one.” This is the story of one such individual, one of my coaching clients, who has been tirelessly navigating love’s labyrinth in pursuit of that “long-lasting” connection.

For the sake of this article (and how much he insisted on me writing it but keeping him secret), let's call our protagonist ‘John’.

John knows what he wants in a partner. He has a clear vision of his “one” — the kind of person with whom he wants to share laughter and dreams, have kids and share Sunday morning coffee. He even has a clear “type” when it comes to appearance but remains open-minded to people outside of his type. Despite his clarity, he’s been met with recurring heartbreak, with relationships reaching their expiry date around the year-and-a-half mark.

It’s not due to a lack of effort. John has navigated the dating scene with determination. He used multiple apps and met people online and offline, with every ending becoming an opportunity to learn and refine his approach. He is excellent at finding people and is fully aware of his looks and position in life, he can have a person sleeping with him on the same night if he wants to. However, despite his many attempts and hope, he is still single. He found multiple people with whom he shared a deep bond, but as soon as the mark was closer, one of them would turn a bit more distant or a bit too close to the other, and issues lead to breaking up.

What am I doing wrong? -He asked me, desperate to learn why his past kept repeating.

While eating ice cream and walking around the park, I asked a few questions about his exes, trying to find a pattern.

John’s Exes and Patterns

  • My first ex, I was too young, I felt like we were in love, but…

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Fer Rivero

Artist, Singer, Writer and Digital Marketer. Author of Quantum Behaviours, Tales for the Mind and other titles :D